Quién tiende a sabotear nuestros sueños, metas y aspiraciones?

Son aquellos más cercanos de lo que nos imaginamos.., sí, empezando por nosotros mismos, y siguiendo por la pareja, amigos, papás, familia.

Qué tan seguido esas personas cercanas realmente te ofrecen apoyo cuando compartes tus ideas y que quizá no están dentro de lo "normal"? No tan seguido como tal vez lo quisiéramos pensar, POR QUÉ? Lo hacen con mala intención? No, es una tendencia natural en las interacciones de grupo. 

Papás tienden a sabotear nuevas ideas y metas porque ellos tienen un instinto natural de protección, por lo general estarán contentos si no experimentamos muchas cosas nuevas ya que eso implica que estaremos más seguros 😊. 

Y amigos o pareja? Resulta que también pasa algo entre grupos y comunidades, hay una tendencia por tratar de estar al mismo nivel con aquellos en nuestro círculo cercano, y cada vez que alguien tiende a avanzar o tomar distancia del círculo, adivinen que es más fácil para poder mantenerse al mismo nivel con ellos, alcanzarlos al avanzar también? 

O desmotivarlos haciendo énfasis en las partes negativas porque "es para su bien"? Lo hacen de mala intención? No, es algo natural en humanos porque siempre queremos hacer parte del grupo lo cual implica no quedarse atrás.

Y nos saboteamos a nosotros mismos también? Pues sí, también pasa, y de muchas formas, la principal, es la falta de confianza. 

En resumen, las personas más cercanas a nosotros son las que tienden a limitar nuestras aspiraciones y poner barreras. La mayoría no lo hace con mala intención. Sin embargo es bueno poder identificarlo y gestionarlo. 

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