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You don’t get what you don’t ask for

Sounds simple and basic, yet true: You don’t get what you don’t ask for.  I grew up in certain context in which I rarely demanded how I wanted things to be. It was more like I would adapt to the conditions and get the most out of it for me. I always struggled to indicate what I actually wanted, “to speak my mind”. I believe it has to do with my upbringing. I would be flexible, adapt to anything, and never complain. It has a positive side, but I’ll focus now on the negative one, which I believe is related with the idea of “you don’t get what you don’t ask for”. I kind of learnt that asking for help is a sign of weakness, and even asking for something feels like giving someone else the power to rejected us and lastly, feeling the emotional pain and embarrassment that comes with it.  But it also meant that I would often not get what I wanted because I didn’t ask for it or expressed myself clearly. I still see that happening often, it’s just that sometimes I am on the other side w...

Let actions do the talk

The way people act is a more accurate representation of their inner feelings/ motivations, than what they actually say. We can’t be 100% sure about things, but I believe our actions say more about our true selves than what we actually say. Relationships are complex. Get more skilled at reading people’s actions, as well as your own, and you will understand better the people around you and your relationships.  Sergio, reflection about friendships. Conclusion: “let actions do the talk”.